“A very frequently talked about topic in spiritual work and unfortunately often mistaken/ misunderstood !
So let’s throw some light on it!
Let’s understand one very fundamental fact. We really don’t have Grey areas when it comes to Universal truths, when it comes to Universal Laws, when it comes to self realization and fundamentals of a healthy life. It’s either white or black. All the Greys we create is our escape, self sabotage……Basically Mind fooling us.
So it is never possible to have self love in your individual space and then become a doormat in a relationship.
Either we have self love or we don’t!
The modern life style has confused our already retarded mind ( in Self realization/ spiritual aspect of our being) even further more.
We feel holidays ( which are more of escape or sometimes just to shut the family and partner because we cover up for all the goof ups), going to spa, a bit of flirting here and there, eating strictly as the diet given by our instructor, going for massages or buying the most expensive toiletry is Self Love. We feel our achievements and ambitions are conceived out of self love.
We think doing well, or taking some selfish decisions ( because they make us happy) is Self Love.
Well! None of the above is self love. Neither doing anything to cover up for the lost time is self Love.
Self Love can only come when you SEE ALL ASPECT OF YOUR BEING AND OF OTHERS VERY CLEARLY AND YET YOU CHOOSE YOUR LIFE PURPOSE, YOUR BEING, YOUR BOUNDARIES OVER EVERYTHING ELSE WHILE YOU HOLD THE SPACE FOR OTHERS TO GROW IN YOUR GARDEN OF LOVE AND COMPASSION.
It is way deeper than thinking, feeling and trying to give yourself priority ( mostly people mistake self importance with Self Love) ! Self Love is when you become Love!
You can’t / or do not need to figure it out, there is no effort needed, it is the effect of the cause and cause is Your True Self Realization!
YOU BECOME IT!
Sahar Gharachorlou #LifeCoach